No distance without friends
Some people say that the closest relationship is always the most fragile. The relationship between friends is a kind of interpersonal relationship. Although there is no flesh and blood connection, there is something that cannot be replaced by family relationships. Maybe in lifeAt some instant you will find that the best friend around you was like a copy of yourself at that time, so that you have a feeling of spiritual interaction, but when there is such a heart, you think your good friend knows you well,There are many things that should not be concealed from your improvement, and even some days he suddenly alienated you and made you feel inexplicable. Maybe you would do a lot of things for him, but he didn’t appreciate it very much . the mutual concern among friends isNeedless to say, but everyone has their own way of life. If everything doesn’t distinguish between you and me, will it also surround friendship with some awkward situations?
True friends are like the ratio of cool white openness to sweet love. Friendship falls into a dull bland; enumerated with a warm family relationship, friendship is inevitable.
Love is like wine, and affection is like a thick soup. Friendship can only be white.
But a person with dry mouth and dry mouth needs the most glass of water for heart and lungs. When a person is in distress, the hand stretched out by a friend is often better than the kiss of a lover and the comfort of a loved one.
Water is the main element of life, and friends are the basic pillars of life.
The ancients said: “The gentleman’s friendship is as light as water.
“You don’t have to bear the vows of the sea, you don’t have to guard against the changes of” Three Twilights and Four “, you don’t have to pay attention to the politeness, and you don’t have to worry about worrying about it. A friend is the one who is willing to be your audience but does not disturb your heart.
It’s okay to talk on the phone, to talk to the East until the East becomes white, and you can tell the trouble and distress as much as you can.
You appreciate his patience, he thank you for your trust, and then you take each other’s way.
Everyone in the city is like a hedgehog. Friends should be able to sense the warmth of each other while avoiding mutual harm. You don’t need to identify a friend to share all your joys and sorrows with you.
Enjoy each other happily, set aside when you are busy, have a party when you are free, and say hello when you need it. Friends are so simple.
Everyone needs a free space. Psychologist Hall believes that the spatial distance maintained by both parties in interpersonal communication is a manifestation of interpersonal relationships. Studies have found that the distance between intimate relationships (parents and children, lovers, couples) is 18 inches.The distance between personal relationships (friends, acquaintances) is generally 1.
4 feet, the social relationship (between ordinary people) is generally 4?
12 feet, the distance for public relations (strangers, subordinates) is 12?
Speaking this theory, it is not that I also agree with friends and acquaintances that the distance should be controlled at 1.
5?It’s so accurate between 4 feet, but the distance that I can interact with people is indeed a manifestation of human attitude towards objects.
Friends and acquaintances often establish a close friendship instead of comrades-in-arms through communication, in terms of thoughts, tastes, and other aspects, because they are connected or complementary. In front of them, I will not deliberately conceal my vices, or talk franklyAll my own shortcomings, so friends, acquaintances can and can only intervene is only part of my life.
For parents who live together day and night under one roof, their loved ones must know a series of life details such as whether I wake up early, brush my teeth, or wash my feet before going to bed. Therefore, they are more involved in my life. Such a closeness cannot be compared and replaced by any friend.of.
For me, if I think of myself as a set and the two types of people above as two other sets, then both sets intersect with me, and the two sets neither contain me nor coincide with me, IThe part where I never intersect with them is my personal space. It belongs to me and is the most personal part of me.
Whether for friends or parents, my private space will never be open, they can appreciate from a distance, because although it is hidden but not compact, although it is a small space, I need and must fill it with freedomIn fact, this is important for everyone.
I always divide my friends into three categories when I do n’t like my friends. The first category is the best. I know each other very well, and I confirm that I can share our sufferings with each other.
The second type is better. Under certain conditions, people who know something can say something that they cannot say.
The third category is friends who meet each other.
I would like to define the name of friends as my first type of friends, because we are the closest, most destined, and really talk about everything, we will all try to think of each other, but I do not welcome my friends to attract my private life,Maybe more often, a friend is out of concern for the purpose of caring about you and fears that you will be harmed. If you do n’t like it, it ‘s best to give him a hint first, but if he still does n’t understand, you can ask him to talkTalk and express yourself properly.
Some people regard good friends as themselves, and believe that there must be no secret between good friends. In fact, there is a limit to “nothing to say”. There are such things happening around, two particularly good girls, eat the sameLive, as good as one person, they know each other well, because they are too familiar with each other and they do n’t distinguish between you and me. They tell each other ‘s secrets as their own, which seriously affects the normal life of friends and makes it difficult for friends to have relationships.Maintain it, so even for your best friend, keep some of your personal secrets properly. Do n’t try to publicize your private life to prove your sincerity to your friends. Do n’t expect your friends to help you with any personal issues.It is up to you to face it bravely.
If two good friends can be like-minded in their careers, caring for each other in their lives, but relatively independent in their private lives, and do not disturb each other’s favorite life, then this is a noble friendship. I believe this is what we are.The realm to be pursued as a friend of others.
What about saying no to friends?
Last month, my college classmate Jinhui was short of money due to business failure. I lent him the 50,000 yuan I could support him.
Jinhui was very touched. He knew that I was helping out, so he called every night to vomit bitter water. I came back from work late every day and spent two or three hours chatting with him to relieve boredom.He started to talk about my family’s affairs, and he had to comment a few words on everything up and down, and he had to inquire about the big and small things.
At first, I felt that he was in a bad mood. As long as he asked, I would call it more or less two sentences, but one day I came home late, and he and my wife couldn’t stop talking about it from my mouth.My family’s affairs caused my wife to think that I had an opinion on her.
To make matters worse, he would come to me in the middle of the night and ask me to accompany him to the bar. Such a day lasted for nearly a month. I couldn’t stand it anymore. The lives of my wife and children were also affected, and I complained a lot.
I think I can cut a knife for a friend, but I can’t protect myself, and I can’t help him anymore.
One day, I also had a hard time with him. After all, he was my friend. He knew me very well and understood that I didn’t like the way he got along with him.
It’s really hard to say “no” to a friend, but as long as it’s not “seeing to die”, a friend’s words must be understandable.