It’s easy to love, but difficult to get along
Marriage is a matter of its own. The Marriage Law cancelled the unit certification and the pre-marital inspection, which caused people’s doubts about the issue of “big marriage”.
Regarding this phenomenon, Chen Wei believes that his very famous and famous marriage expert Chen Xinxin believes that marriage is not a business of the unit, not a hospital, but a personal matter.
Everyone must be responsible for their choices.
Everyone has a responsibility to have a real understanding of the subject before marriage.
If you marry him or her without even realizing that your marriage partner “contains a second wife” and “big marriage”, it is very rash and irresponsible to you, so you must bear the correspondingResponsibility.
The state is no longer mandatory, which makes many people likely to opt out of premarital inspections.
Chen Wei believes that such people generally have such a mentality: firstly, they are extremely eager for marriage, but they are afraid that they may have problems affecting their marriage, so they choose to give up; secondly, they believe that they know each other very well and do not need to undergo a marriage check.
In fact, both ideas are irresponsible.
You must not consider your own future simply because you are cheap and greedy with happiness.
I believe that everyone who really treats love and marriage healthily hopes that their marriage is long-lasting and harmonious.
This requires everyone to take it seriously before entering the marriage.
Marriage is a personal matter, and individuals have the right to handle it arbitrarily.
But at the same time, it needs to be handled reasonably.
But we must not evade corresponding responsibilities because of this individuality.
We need to be accountable to each other and to the marriage itself.
Do you really understand him (her)? Consultant Chen Wei introduced that many young people are very confident in their love.
And this self-confidence comes from their self-confidence.
But it must be noted that love often blindfolds your eyes, and you often change some of their opposite personalities and consider them “cool”.
But after getting married, you may find that this is not the case at all.
You will find that his (her) laziness makes you intolerable, and you will find that her (his) delay is uncomfortable.
You will find that he (she) has so many weaknesses. It turns out that he (she) has such a big gap with the person you want in your dreams.
Chen Wei said that he had received such a case, and a girl married a man he liked despite the opposition of her family.
She considers him the best and coolest man in the world.
He lived very freely and detached, optimistic, without sorrow.
She felt that following him, she had no sorrow.
But after getting married, the kind of free and easy in his eyes gradually became idle, he was not motivated, did not work hard, and supported her all day without guilt and shame.
So she didn’t think he was an ideal companion for the rest of her life, but she couldn’t turn back.
In response to this situation, Chen Wei analyzed that before you get married, you must know the person you want to spend your life with, and you must be sure you are willing to tolerate some of his shortcomings.
In fact, proper tolerance is very normal and necessary. Some people said it well: “I can’t bear emotional grievances. Where can I get affection for?
At the same time, we must pay attention to communication.
Men and women sometimes do not want to communicate, but lack the courage to communicate. After all, there is a big gap between “love” and “accommodation”.
Two people should try to look at the problem from the perspective of each other. Don’t be too stubborn. Don’t be completely stanceless and flexible.
This habit is very useful for emotional communication.
Therefore, young men and women should form such a habit before marriage, transforming their transition to love.
Marriage is the station of life At the end, Mr. Chen Wei warned young people who lingered outside the door of marriage: do n’t imagine marriage too ideally, where there will be thorns and bumps; do n’t make marriage sovereignty the grave of love.
”It is a station in life, a process in which both parties grow together.”
When choosing a spouse, an unloved person should consider whether there is love between the two, and never blindly; when deciding to marry, consider it more rationally, because marriage is a gradual step in life and at the same time it will change the future life.Be mentally prepared.
Marriage means willing to take care of the other. When the spouse encounters setbacks, you must help him or her carefully until he or she can stand up again; when the spouse has achieved success, you will use him or her) Is proud, and encourage him or her to create another peak.”Everything has a good start, and there must be a satisfactory result, and the combination of two feelings and happiness can only be happy”!
Love is romantic and marriage is reality. Chen Wei said that such cases are often encountered during the consultation process.
When two young people are in love, they are very harmonious and rarely quarrel with red faces. They always cook together, wash dishes, and are very warm.
After marriage, things changed, and men’s energy was more focused on their careers.
Because he believes that men should be the first.
As a result, he became more and more romantic with the girly desire.
When women get married, their psychological focus shifts to the family. Whenever the husband comes home from work, she always wants to repeat the romantic scene of working together.
But her husband was very tired and could not get interested.
As a result, the contradictions between them gradually expand, and the quality of marriage is also very unsatisfactory.
Chen Wei believes that the sweet feeling in love will dazzle to a certain extent, and make you look forward to the future too much.
Among them, there are more women.
Women are naturally more romantic than men, more fanciful, and less courageous to face reality. Therefore, when they encounter changes, it is difficult to adapt to them at once, thus causing family conflict.
So, before you get married, you must realize that love is romantic and marriage is real.
You must have the courage to face the problems in real life.
Only after understanding the life philosophy of “love easily and get along with each other” can you enter the palace of marriage.
After marriage, both parties must understand and considerate each other, and do not force others to do what they want.